No matter how long you and your spouse have been together in Michigan, you may still struggle to reach a middle ground when a disagreement crops up. Worse yet, you may feel you disagree more and more lately, making you consider how much longer your marriage may last.

NBC News has you and your spouse covered. Learn how to make marital disagreements more productive and less destructive.

Wait for your turn to speak

While in the thick of an argument, you may be unable to resist the urge to interject with a statement or correction regarding your spouse’s narrative. It is best to sit back and not only listen, but also hear what your wife or husband has to say. Take a moment to process what you heard before speaking your piece.

Do not speak from a place of extreme emotion

If you have a temper or often speak out of anger, it is vital that you learn how to step away from a heated discussion to get your thoughts in order before speaking. On the other hand, you may be the type who completely shuts down during confrontation, not giving the other person anything. In either case, getting out of the house to get some air and compose yourself (making sure you communicate your actions to your spouse) allows you to maintain control over your emotions.

Let the past stay where it is

Depending on how long you and your spouse have been together, either of you may have done or said things that do not spark fond memories. While you do not necessarily need to forget about the past, you should not use past misdeeds as a verbal weapon to gain the upper hand in an argument.

This information is only intended to educate and should not be interpreted as legal advice.